Hey ,
Berlin has these cool car share companies that allow you to do short-term car rentals to run your errands, go shopping and whatever else you need to do without having to worry about parking.
We love using them because we have the freedom to travel without the hassle of taking public transportation during a pandemic or carrying lots of bags from our shopping trips.
Traveling in a different county is not completely stress free. During one of those stressful moments, something was said to me that "stuck to my ribs".
What I mean by that is, I got triggered and could not shake it that easily. I felt accused and unappreciated and my instinct was to go silent and shut down. That's how he'll know that I'm pissed at what he said to me. Have you ever done this?
First of all, that never works because people are not mind readers and have no idea why you have gone silent and shut down.
Second, nothing gets resolved and you end up holding on to that resentment in your body and that's not healthy.
Third, you've got to know how to handle conflict and communication issues if you want to be successful in life and business. Going silent and shutting down is not going to move you forward.
So, I spoke up and shared my experience of what was said and asked for clarification. We both shared, listened, got clarity and created a solution to move forward and were able to get back to being fabulous in less than 10 minutes.
So much time in life is wasted on the aftermath of miscommunication. The arguments, accusations, misunderstandings and silent treatments steal time away from the fun and joy of life.
In the past, my silent treatment shut-downs would last for days. I would lose so much joy from my life holding on to such pettiness. I'm choosing joy now.
