How often are you hearing coaches and thought leaders talk about "overcoming fear"?
If you have been following personal development coaches and leaders for a while, there's no doubt that we have all been encouraged to move past and get over our fear.
People all over the world are working so hard to move past fear, overcome fear and kick fear to the rear.
We often fail in our attempts to silence our fears because, quite frankly, it's hard.
So, you try to increase your confidence with some magical thinking and formula and that's hard too.
With all the mindset coaches, empowerment coaches, and confidence coaches, it can cost a fortune to fight your fears.
I get it. Fear can be paralyzing. That's why there are so many people out there to help you get the results that your fears are holding you back from.
Let me give you a different perspective to consider. What if, instead of overcoming, ignoring, and smacking down your fear, you made friends with it?
Hear me out for a second. What if you made friends with your fear and made your fear your partner?
Here's what I mean. When you see your fear as a protector from harm, you know that it's coming from a place of love. (Think overprotective mother)
Back in the saber-toothed tiger days, your fear was necessary to save your life. Hence, your fight or flight response.
So, in place of those pesky tigers, you now have fear of embarrassment, failure or some kind of loss, that your fear wants to protect you from.
Not quite as life-threatening as that tiger, but scary just the same.
What if you had a conversation with your fear about exactly what it wants to protect you from? Seriously, talk it out.
Reassure your fear that the action you are about to take will not result in your death and thank it for always looking out for you and wanting to keep you safe. (Again, think mother)
Now, tell your fear to trust you and let's do this thing together. Your fear can be rocket fuel to your actions. Teach your fear how to walk with you and not to hold you back.
You may or may not get the results you wanted, but at least you did it together and you didn't die. Talk about what you learned and how you'll do better next time.
Fear is not so bad. It's more annoying than anything else. Like a nervous little buddy that just wants to make sure that you run like hell from your impending mauling from that saber-toothed tiger.
Reply to this email and tell me what your fear is keeping you from accomplishing in your life. Let's find a way to work as a team and stop your fear from stopping you.
