How do you handle being disappointed?

Published: Thu, 08/13/20

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I'm still on my birthday trip so I'm just saying a quick hello. I also want to share something with you.

I've been looking forward to easing into my 60th birthday by planning a big trip to Italy. But thanks to COVID, that didn't happen. Nor did any other plans I wanted to make that took me out of the country.

So, the quest was on to create a fun, socially distanced birthday trip. And, since my favorite thing in the world to do, (well, one of my favorite things) is to go whale watching, my husband knew that would be a happy alternative.

We planned a trip to the Oregon Coast. The plan was to go out on the whale watching boat on Sunday, my birthday, and I was so excited. Dog sitter...check. Warm clothes...check. Glee and excitement...check. Trip canceled because of high swells....yup. Now what?

Spent my birthday driving around, killing time until dinner. That's okay, let's try again in a couple of days. Same scenario... trip canceled at the last minute.

Now, I must admit, with my hopes up high, I was disappointed. But we tried again today and success, the trip was on. I was still excited, but more subdued this time. Off we go on this much anticipated boat trip and barely a whale or 2 in sight. Sigh...

High expectations, high disappointment, is usually how this scene plays out. Yes, I wanted to start a small pity party in my head. Fortunately, I've learned how to interrupt those types of party planners and figure out a better response.

After, the anti climatic whale watching trip, complete with flies all over the boat, we decided to picnic along the shore, and much to our delight, we saw whales.

A really cute couple that gave us the delight of watching them frolic back and forth, feeding on whatever was in great supply near the rocks. It was magnificent and a nice, relaxing experience to enjoy together.

We happened to get a cool photo of the tail here...

In the past, let downs and disappointments would literally take me down from enjoying the rest of the trip.

My high expectations in life and of others, would have me react in a way, that manifested as anger, resentfulness, victim and frustration. This was due to the habits, patterns, beliefs and behaviors that were cultivated by my early life experiences.

Learning how to recognize when those habits show up and threaten my responses to disappointments now is crucial to my ability to shift and create wins out of these scenarios.

This is the foundation of the work that I do with my clients. This is the secret to breaking through obstacles in life, business and relationships.

If you need this in your life, I want to share these foundational secrets with you.

I'll be back next week and looking to share these pattern interrupt secrets with you personally. Let's you and I get on a call next week. Book Here to Learn the Foundational Secrets

I can't wait to share them with you!

All the best,

PS. Don't forget to join me live on my Facebook Page, Personal Coach 4 Success Wednesday mornings at 9:30am Pacific. Would love to have you there!

Eva Medilek is a Speaker, Trainer, Certified High Performance Coach, Relationship Success Coach, and a graduate of Ascension Leadership Academy and the High Performance Institute. She works with highly driven leaders to increase their relational capacity to up level their potential for success in both their personal and professional lives. www.evamedilek.com

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